Marriage is not lived in a vacuum. Every couple exists within a complex web of relationships, expectations, circumstances, and influences that constantly shape, challenge, and sometimes threaten the very foundation of their union. These outside forces - what economists call externalities - have profound impacts on the decisions we make, the priorities we set, and the love we share.
This book emerged from years of observing marriages that started with tremendous promise, only to find themselves gradually worn down not by lack of love, but by the cumulative effect of external pressures they never fully understood or addressed. From the subtle influence of social media comparisons to the overt pressure of financial expectations, from the well-meaning but sometimes harmful advice of family members to the career demands that slowly erode couple time - modern marriages face an unprecedented array of outside influences. Yet within these challenges lies tremendous opportunity. When couples understand the nature of these externalities and develop strategies to navigate them wisely, their marriages don't just survive
- they thrive. They become models of intentionality, wisdom, and resilient love that inspire others and create positive externalities of their own.
This book is written for couples who want to build marriages that honor God, strengthen each other, and positively impact their communities. It's for those who recognize that love alone, while
essential, is not enough - that successful marriages require wisdom, intentionality, and practical strategies for managing the complex world in which they exist.
My prayer is that these pages will equip you with both the understand- ing and the tools necessary to build a marriage that not only withstands external pressures but transforms them into opportunities for deeper connection, stronger faith, and more profound love.